Thoughtful Action: Discussion from Sunday's Sermon

The Harsh Husband

Colossians 3:19


Colossians 3:18–19 (ESV)

18Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.

19Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.


1.     If your small group can handle this level of interaction, have each married person mention one thing they are thankful for in his or her spouse and one thing that they would like for them to work on based on what they heard from the past three sermons on the husband-wife relationship.

a.     Again, be tactful and helpful. 

b.     Maybe the small group could offer some helpful suggestions.

2.     If you are single,  mention one thing that you obviously need to work on in order to prepare for a potential marriage (even if you don’t plan on getting married).

3.     What is the main idea behind harsh? How do the following cross-references help provide clarity to your answer?

a.     James 3:11

b.     James 3:14

c.      Matthew 26:75

d.     Hebrews 13:15

4.     Why do so many married people find themselves so disappointed with their marriages?

5.     Why do people change?

a.     What are some examples and causes of positive change?

b.     What are some examples and causes of negative change?

6.     Why is it so important for a person to be able to identify what irritates them in their spouse (or another friend, if you are single)?  

a.     What help could that possibly provide?

b.     What are the dangers of identifying your respective irritants?

7.     When you identify what irritates you, how should you then deal with your irritations? (How would it help a signle person to think along these lines before they are married?) Fill in and discuss the following worksheet:

a.     Repent –

b.     Refocus –

c.      Replace –

8.     How does it help to realize how much Jesus loves us as we seek to interact positively with our spouses (or other people in our lives)?