The Provocative Parent
Colossians 3:21 (ESV)
Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.
1. Why is it so important for parents to be on the same page with each other in raising children?
a. How can competition between parents unnecessarily provoke children?
b. Have you found that you as a parent have different desires and motivations in parenting than your spouse?
c. How have you and your spouse come to an agreement on parenting philosophy and techniques?
d. What difference does it make if you are focused on preaching the Gospel regularly to your children?
e. What difference does it make if you are both committed to developing Christlikeness in your children?
2. What does “provoke” mean?
a. How do you tend to provoke your children?
b. How can you head in the opposite direction and train them as the Lord would have you in Eph.6:4?
c. Are you satisfied with the analogy of parenting as coaching? If not, can you think of a better one?
d. As a project, sit down with your spouse and come up with an issue in the life of your child and develop a plan to
i. Tell them “what” to do
ii. Tell them “why” they should do it
iii. Show them “how” they should do it
3. Why is it in your best interest as a parent that you don’t discourage your child(ren)?