Be THAT Kind of Friend

Proverbs 18:24 (ESV) – A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

I know. I know. There are positives and negatives to social media.  There is no doubt that social media is changing the fabric of relationships everywhere though.  In some ways for the good. In some ways for the bad.  I find it helpful at times. At other times, I find it a hindrance to much more important things.

 

Here’s one caution I would give.  Social media can be addictive to the point where you don’t foster any of the real life relationships with the people who live under the same roof as you.  No matter how you look at it, that’s not good. Yes, it’s fun to be able to look at pics of people you went to grade school with whom you wouldn’t otherwise ever communicate until you see them again in heaven.  But it’s good to develop your relationships with your spouse and children.  And if you have to make the choice, always choose the “good” over the “fun.”  It’s hard, sometimes it hurts, and it’s often exhausting. But it is good!

 

Developing friendships within your family will serve you well over the long haul.  You will survive just fine without knowing much about people you haven’t seen in forever, but you won’t survive just fine if you remain strangers with those closest to you right now.  If your marriage comes to ruin while you are keeping tabs on other people’s kids, you will lose out on both your marriage and your kids.

 

If you want a close friendship with your family members, you must first be a close friend to your family members.  Sometimes, due to their own social media addiction, they don’t want you close to them, but you can still invest in them and serve them and love them in ways that will eventually provide the opportunities for you to enjoy the benefits of a close friendship with them.  Stick with it. Be that kind of friend.  Don’t let “Chatface” (or whatever the newest, neatest app is called) get in the way!  Don’t spread yourself so thin over the web that you have no energy or desire to go deep in person.

 

It may stroke your ego to have many cyber companions, but it won’t be worth it if you come to ruin where you’re most vulnerable.  Use social media; don’t let it use you.  Stick close to those you love the most.  Be that kind of friend to them.  That is, after all, how Jesus befriends each of us.