Even after all the “progress” that our culture has made concerning LGBTQ+ rights, many in the movement still find themselves empty and unfulfilled. I read and hear of reports regularly that reinforce this concern. Some are from professional journals. Some are the reports of independent physicians or associations. Some are LGBTQ+ activists themselves that are wondering why the melancholy remains. But from the legalizing of same-sex marriage to the attempted banishment of conversion therapies, our culture remains determined to normalize homosexuality, lesbianism, bisexuality, and transgenderism.
Honestly, I think believers should think painfully about how to respond well to this. As Bible-believing Christians, we may feel more comfortable in a culture where alternative sexual identities are not normalized, but the goal should not be to feel comfortable. Pilgrims must always feel some sense of discomfort when they are on pilgrimage. Those whose citizenship is in heaven must never fall into the trap of finding comfort or security in a city without foundations. Rather, we must learn to be contentedly uncomfortable while we continually desire a better, heavenly country (Hebrews 11:9-16).
And yet not responding at all or just turning our heads the other way would be cataclysmically disastrous as well. I’m certainly not arguing in favor of doing nothing. But I would like to say this. The biggest and most vital change of identity that anybody needs, regardless of their chosen path of sinfulness, is to become identified with Christ. This means that becoming a monogamous heterosexual is not the biggest need of somebody who identifies elsewise. They need Jesus, and it is Jesus alone who can fundamentally change anything about them.
This is my greatest need too. It is the greatest need of all of us, regardless of whether or not we buy into identity politics or have an identity crisis. There are fundamentally only two identities that make an eternal difference. Do you identify with Christ, as being in Christ, or not? And once someone is in Christ, then all other identities fade into comparative oblivion. It is then that Jesus alone, by His Spirit using the Word of God, can do the moral rearrangement of a new believer’s life and loves, to reorder them in accordance with biblical identities of lesser consideration.
This is not to say that sexual identity is unimportant. It is very important because God made people either male or female by his own power and authority. He gets to make the call about our sexual identity. His law is firm and unwavering. But getting the right sexual identity doesn’t get anybody into heaven or give them a peace that passes understanding. Malaise and a lack of a sense of fulfillment are characteristics of many heterosexuals as well. Regardless of whom we encounter, we should be very careful to preach the Gospel, not a cherished or preferred version of morality, even if we feel more comfortable with it, and even if it is a biblically accurate statement about God’s law. Never stop with the law. The law intends to lead us to Christ when it is rightly preached.
So, moving people to the right on a political scale or trying to talk them into a right sexual identity is not and should not be the main goal of the believer who truly loves someone who identifies as LGBTQ+. Loving somebody by telling them the truth that Christ died to give us all his own identity should be. That would be the “right identity” to preach.